Cyberbullying is a major problem that comes hand in hand with modern life and social networking. Many children are struggling to handle life with cyberbullying and it has a negative impact on their mental health, contributing to depression, self-harm, suicidal thoughts and low self-esteem. It can be difficult for foster carers to know how to help in these situations. The NSPCC have shared some very useful tips that can be of use. Here are 5 tips for foster carers and parents that can be helpful for children dealing with cyberbullying.
5 Tips for Foster Carers and Parents
Start the conversation flowing. Cyberbullying and bullying can be discussed to help encourage children to open up about their own experiences. Ensure the conversation remains calm and listen carefully to what’s being said. If the child in your care informs you that they’re being bullied be sure to check in with them often and let them know that you are there for them and ready to talk at any time.
Share information on who the child in your care can talk to if they need help and are not able to discuss it with you. Make sure they understand that you are happy to talk, but if they find it difficult there are other adults out there who will listen, including their teachers, social work team and Childline. Childline can be contacted on the phone, live chat and email.
Encourage relaxation and stepping away from social media and modern-day pressures. Start a new hobby or activity to help increase confidence and give them reassurance that they are cared for and loved. Find activities that they enjoy, which could be something as simple as listening to music or perhaps playing a sport.
Teach online safety as soon as the child in your care begins using the Internet. Encourage older children to have time away from their phone and screen, but don’t enforce the rule. It’s important for the child to feel they can be open about their online activities and not have to hide it from you. There’s plenty of age-appropriate information on how to stay safe online available from Thinkuknow.
Talk to the school about the bullying and begin gathering evidence to show the type of bullying that is taking place. Let the teachers know about the impact the bullying is having on the child and ask to see a copy of the school’s anti-bullying policy.
Find out more about how you can help a child being affected by cyberbullying over on the NSPCC website.
The amount of calls to Childline concerning cyberbullying continues to increase. During 2016/17, there were 3,103 counselling sessions on Childline, an increase of 12% from the year before. The amount of sessions has in fact double since cyberbullying was considered to be a specific issue, which was in 2012. Some of the common concerns in children surrounding cyberbullying are:
Young people are often left feeling unable to cope and cyberbullying is now a contributing factor to mental health problems that include self-harm, depression, low self-esteem and suicidal thoughts. Females aged between 12-15 have received the most counselling sessions regarding cyberbullying, but there have been calls from children as young as 9.
Around the Clock Cyberbullying
One of the major concerns is that cyberbullying can take place around the clock, there is no escape. Children feel unable to unfriend their bullies because they feel the problem will increase at school as a result of the blocking. It’s hard for children to talk to parents about the problem too.
The social pressures faced by modern children is huge. The NSPCC has called for the government to do more to help keep children safe online. It is hoped that a rulebook enshrined in law will be produced, requiring all social media sites to protect children from online abuse and bullying. It is hoped that the rules will include the introduction of an alerts system and strict privacy settings along with easy reporting systems.
Childline is available 24/7 for children who would like to talk in confidence by calling 0800 1111 (the number is free to call from landlines and mobiles in the UK). Read more about cyberbullying and how you can help children to deal with the social pressures of the 21st Century.
On Tuesday, December 19 2018, Robert Goodwill the Children’s minister announced that children in foster care in England, aged 3 and 4 years old, would now be entitled to the extra 15 hours of free childcare. The free childcare will be available to use from September 2018.
The announcement made in Parliament brings closure to an ongoing battle to end a discriminatory policy that excluded fostered children being able to access the free childcare that was allocated to non-fostered children of the same age in England. The policy came into force in September 2017. Children in England had the potential of receiving up to 30 hours of free childcare. Before the latest change, the policy included an exclusion stating the discriminatory words “if the child is your foster child”. Labour MP Lisa Nandy led the campaign to see the policy updated to included fostered children.
Fostered Children Not to Be Discriminated Against
The change of policy is welcomed news. Fostered children should not be discriminated against and given the same rights as their peers. The Fostering Network is delighted with the news and thanked everyone who decided to back their campaign to ensure fostered children were not excluded from the free childcare hours. At the debate that was chaired by Lisa Nandy, Goodwill said that it was a vital issue and that fostered children should be given access to the same support and opportunities as their peers.
The Government shall work together with local authorities and fostering service providers and other members of the sector to implement the change in the best way for the interest of the child. More information on how these changes will be delivered will be announced at a later date.
Fostering is one way of helping the UK’s most vulnerable children. Becoming a foster carer is rewarding and challenging. It’s a way of sharing your experience and skills with a child at a time when they may need it the most. It’s a way of keeping a child safe from harm, showing security, love and strength. It’s a time for you to shine together. But where do you start?
Becoming a Foster Carer in the Midlands
If you’re reading this, it’s highly likely that you’ve considered entering the fostering world for some time. Perhaps now you’re almost ready to get in touch and start your fostering journey rolling, but you have a few more questions or doubts in your mind. It’s absolutely understandable to be hesitant, but we want to remind everyone considering fostering that there is nothing to lose in making an enquiry. You will not be frowned upon for asking questions or for changing your mind. There really is nothing to lose but potentially you have so much to gain. We urge you to pick up the phone or type us a message as there are children who are in need of people like you, right now.
Here are a few answers to some of the most commonly asked questions that we receive.
You can apply to become a carer if you are single, married or cohabiting and regardless of your sexual orientation.
Homeowners and tenants are welcome to apply.
Your cultural background, ethnicity and religious beliefs will not get in the way of your fostering journey. You may need to show how you will provide support to a child of a different religion to yours or when they might be questioning their faith.
Your home will be checked to see if it’s suitable and a spare room is necessary. Each foster child entering your home requires a bedroom of their own – not a shared bedroom.
You may be able to continue working while fostering, this will depend on the circumstances. In many cases, you will need to provide full-time care. Again, please discuss this with us if you have any concerns.
Foster carers do receive a weekly allowance and sometimes may receive and additional weekly fee. The amount received varies so do call to find out more.
You don’t need a degree or any formal qualifications. You will be provided with training to ensure you have the necessary skills you require to foster children.
You should be aged 21 and over but you can apply from the age of 18.
Your life experience with children and young people will be considered during your application.
Criminal convictions and your history will be considered, along with your health, financial security and your friends and family.
Everyone considering becoming a foster carer in the Midlands has so many questions. You can find loads of information online but the best way of getting the answers and deciding whether you really want to foster a child is by getting in touch. Please pick up the phone or write us an email, you could be a few months away from really making a difference to a child’s life, and your own.
A Call on the Westminster Government has been made by a group of 13 charities and organisations to overturn the decision to exclude fostered children from having access to the extra 15 hours of free childcare.
A letter published in The Guardian made requests to Robert Goodwill, Children’s Minister, to look at the eligibility criteria and take immediate action to reverse the decision.
The letter from the organisations highlighted the fact that children aged 3 and 4 years are now entitled to an additional weekly 15 hours free childcare, which is not inclusive of fostered children. The organisations go on to say that the foster carers would benefit from this additional care as many need to work outside of the home in addition to being a foster carer, which is often a case for long term carers and family and friends foster carers.
The organisations and charities believe that the foster carers and social work team should work together to decided what’s best for the individual children and the fostering family. Fostered children should still have the same opportunities as the other children and this includes the sons and daughters of the foster carers who do qualify for the extra 15 hours of childcare each week. The letter was signed by representatives of the following charities and organisations:
Action for Children
British Association of Social Workers
The Care Leavers’ Association
The Fostering Network
National Association of Independent Reviewing Officers
National Youth Advocacy Service
The Together Trust
We understand there may be financial concerns when choosing to become a foster carer in the Midlands. Please call our office or leave us a message if you’d like to learn more about foster care finances or any other questions you might want answered. Don’t leave your decision to enter foster care to guesswork, seek out the facts.
The Improving mental health support for our children and young people report was launched at the beginning of November 2017. The Social Care Institute for Excellence report consists of the discoveries and recommendations made by an expert working group that was formed by the Department of Health and the Department for Education in England.
One of the members of the expert working group was Kevin Williams, the chief executive of The Fostering Network. According to Mr. Williams, half of the looked after children have a diagnosable mental health disorder. Up to five times as many children placed in care have a lower level of subjective wellbeing in comparison to children from the general population. This shows that the need to improve the mental health of children in care is more important than ever.
Mr. Williams said that as three quarters of looked after children are with foster carers, any transformations in the mental health of looked after children needs to have fostering and the foster carers at its centre. It is hoped that the recommendations in the report will be used as a matter of urgency. Consistency and the quality of assessment and support provided to children in care need to be prioritised so that the mental health needs of these children are met.
Foster Carers Need to Be Supported and Valued
The report highlighted that many carers lack the support they need for their child or children because of high thresholds or being excluded from important meetings. As foster carers are an important member of the team and are often the ones with the highest understanding for the child, it’s important that they are included, and their views sought. Foster carers need to be valued and their views taken into consideration.
Caring for carers is as vital as it is to care for the looked after children and young people. The Fostering Network have welcomed the report and the findings and are pleased that the findings included the need to care for the carers and that the carers are recognised and valued. We too support these findings and continue to be committed to providing our foster carers with all the support they need to be the best foster carers for the children and young people in their care.
The Fostering Network recently appealed for more foster families across England. Almost 6000 new foster carers are required to keep up with demand. The new foster families will join more than 44,000 families that already foster children in England. We are sharing the appeal and we’d like to remind you all that we are always hoping to recruit new foster families or welcome transferring foster carers to our agency.
Our independent fostering agency in Worcestershire and our foster families are located in the West Midlands. We’re here to talk to you, share our information and help you make the right decision for you and your family. If you decide to join our agency, we provide round the clock support, ensuring no one feels alone or unsupported. By providing support and training we know that our carers will provide the best outcomes for the children.
The Fostering Network have highlighted the need to find families that are able to look after:
• Children with disability
David Sinclair from The Fostering Network said that there are plenty of people that don’t think they are able to be foster carers, but often they really can. The children that are in care have often experienced traumatic starts, may have been neglected and witnessed things that should never be seen. Because of this, it’s important to remember that foster care is more than being a parent.
In March 2017, there were over 53,000 children living with foster families across England. Please get in touch with our friendly team if you would like to provide the care and support for some of the most vulnerable children in the West Midlands. Our team will help you to understand more about what’s involved and the process of becoming foster families. You can also find plenty of information by visiting The Fostering Network website.
Call our team on 01684 311 555 or leave us a message online and we’ll get back to you as quickly as possible.
One of the most important skills you can have, not only as a foster carer but in your everyday life is listening. The effectiveness of your listening has an impact on the way you perform your job and the quality of the relationships you have with other people in your life. The need to listen is vital for many reasons, including but not limited to:
To obtain information
To gain an understanding
You would think that with the amount of listening we do in our everyday lives that we’d all be expert listeners. Surprisingly, that’s not the case. In fact, research shows that most of us only recall between 25 and 50% of what we hear. Those times when you’re listening to a meeting, listening to the children or listening to the radio, you’re only taking in about half of the conversation, or less! Quite shocking when you think about it. Just think about all that information that is being lost.
Not hearing the whole message can be quite dangerous at times, but it could also mean that you’re missing the whole story. There are things being said to you that you aren’t hearing, resulting in mix messages, lost trust, misunderstandings and so on. Hopefully, you will have captured all the most important parts of the conversation, but what if you haven’t? What have you missed?
Listening is obviously an important skill, one that we would all benefit from improving. By becoming a better listening you’ll improve your overall productivity but also your abilities to influence, persuade and negotiate. Furthermore, conflicts and misunderstandings can be avoided, and workplace successes increase.
Speak to us about the importance of listening and other skills required for fostering in the Midlands. We’re waiting to hear from you and share our information with you to assist your fostering journey.
The Fostering Network has launched the month-long celebration of the vital contributions that are made by the sons and daughters of foster carers throughout the UK. Sons and Daughters Month is an annual campaign that puts focus on the birth and adopted children of foster carers that play such an important role in fostering. The children provide vital contributions to welcoming the fostered children into their home. To celebrate and thank the children, the fostering communities will be holding many events during November.
Approximately half of foster carers have birth or adopted children still living in the family home when fostering. These children can often make a huge difference to the fostered children entering the new environment, helping them to settle and feel at ease. Some potential foster carers decide not to foster because they have birth or adopted children in the home. However, many birth and adopted children benefit from being a part of the fostering family, finding the experience enriching and helping them to develop as individuals.
Thoughts from the Children of Foster Carers
Lydia Bright, well known for her The Only Way is Essex, grew up as a part of a fostering family. Her mum, Debbie Douglas became a carer when Lydia was in her teens. Lydia has spoken about how chaotic those times sometimes were but also how she wouldn’t have changed anything. She has experience so much love, companionship and has many treasured memories. Lauran, another daughter of foster carers also spoke about how much she has learned through being part of a fostering family. She talked about listening to the foster children’s stories and providing support for them during times of heartbreak. As a result of her life experiences, Lauren now wants to do more for people in care.
The Chief of The Fostering Network Kevin Williams says that Sons and daughter provide valuable contributions to the foster family. In the UK, 64,0000 children are living with a foster family and their foster brothers and sisters are helping them to feel settled, loved and happier.
It’s been a busy time for us here at Foundation Fostering. At the start of the month, we said goodbye to Justin Daniels, our excellent social worker student. Justin has been an incredible asset to our team during his time with us. We wish him good luck as he continues his journey.
Welcome Cheryl, Our New Social Worker Assistant
We now have the pleasure of introducing you to our latest team member, Cheryl. Cheryl is our new social worker assistant. Her journey into the world of fostering began after completing the HR Management Masters Level qualification in 2014. Cheryl has worked with another fostering agency where her main role was conducting initial visits and first assessments with potential foster carers. It was that work that inspired her next career move to start the BSC in Social Work – clearly, the Masters wasn’t enough to discourage further learning!
Cheryl is a mum to two boys in their twenties, has two Labradors and enjoys planning events. No doubt she’ll be coming up with lots of activities for us to do in the near future, we’ll keep you informed! Our foster carers will be meeting Cheryl soon (if they haven’t already).
Welcome to the team Cheryl, we’re delighted to have you.
Get to Know The Foundation Fostering Team
Are you interested in becoming a foster carer? We’re here to talk, whether you have your heart set on fostering in the Midlands, have experience, no experience or are at the stage of just finding out more. More foster carers are needed and we’re always interested in learning more about your ambitions and providing information that will help you on your journey. Give us a call on 01684 311 555 or drop us a message and one of our friendly team will be in touch.